Comments on: Dealing With The Expectations of Others http://www.arwentaylor.com/dealing-with-the-expectations-of-others/ Writer. Thinker. Info Junkie. Life is a puzzle adventure and I'm on a mission to uncover all its hidden treasures. Come explore with me. Topics include personal development, spirituality, people and society, philosophy, science, alternative modes of thinking and my own personal quest to live life on my terms. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 14:13:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: lazygirl http://www.arwentaylor.com/dealing-with-the-expectations-of-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3816 lazygirl Wed, 17 Feb 2010 07:27:35 +0000 http://www.arwentaylor.com/?p=240#comment-3816 Thanks Arwen for the recommendation on Don Miguel Ruiz. I just googled his name and found a really great interview of his (http://www.spiritofmaat.com/archive/apr1/ruiz.htm). I love reading new viewpoints like this. I just might try to get a copy of the book you mentioned. Thanks again! Thanks Arwen for the recommendation on Don Miguel Ruiz. I just googled his name and found a really great interview of his (http://www.spiritofmaat.com/archive/apr1/ruiz.htm). I love reading new viewpoints like this. I just might try to get a copy of the book you mentioned. Thanks again!

]]> By: ArwenTaylor http://www.arwentaylor.com/dealing-with-the-expectations-of-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3814 ArwenTaylor Tue, 16 Feb 2010 16:15:54 +0000 http://www.arwentaylor.com/?p=240#comment-3814 @ LazyGirl Thanks LazyGirl! That's a wonderful quote. I agree, life isn't one size fits all. It wasn't meant to be. One day I just really understood that everyone is walking their own journey and that is how it was meant to be. Unfortunately we get caught in modes of thinking that don't really serve us well and living based on the expectations of others is one of those things. Since I've been working to drop that from my mindset I've felt both freedom and anxiety. Freedom because now I get to choose what I want to do and anxiety because I'm trying to negotiate my current relationships with this new way of thinking. It's interesting so far. I love Abraham Hicks too. I watch and rewatch their videos on YouTube all the time. Another good author is Don Miguel Ruiz. He wrote The Four Agreements and has a new book out called The Fifth Agreement that I just finished reading. Excellent book. If you really want to get a deeper understanding of life I highly recommend The Fifth Agreement. @ LazyGirl

Thanks LazyGirl! That’s a wonderful quote. I agree, life isn’t one size fits all. It wasn’t meant to be. One day I just really understood that everyone is walking their own journey and that is how it was meant to be. Unfortunately we get caught in modes of thinking that don’t really serve us well and living based on the expectations of others is one of those things. Since I’ve been working to drop that from my mindset I’ve felt both freedom and anxiety. Freedom because now I get to choose what I want to do and anxiety because I’m trying to negotiate my current relationships with this new way of thinking. It’s interesting so far.

I love Abraham Hicks too. I watch and rewatch their videos on YouTube all the time. Another good author is Don Miguel Ruiz. He wrote The Four Agreements and has a new book out called The Fifth Agreement that I just finished reading. Excellent book. If you really want to get a deeper understanding of life I highly recommend The Fifth Agreement.

]]> By: ArwenTaylor http://www.arwentaylor.com/dealing-with-the-expectations-of-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3813 ArwenTaylor Tue, 16 Feb 2010 16:01:02 +0000 http://www.arwentaylor.com/?p=240#comment-3813 @ Christie Hi Christie :) That's awesome that you were able to maintain your relationship with your relative. I know they do it out of love rather than malice which is why I have hope for the relationship. I think like you and your relative, we just have to redefine our relationship. I think eventually they will come around. It's just going to take a little time. @ Christie

Hi Christie :)

That’s awesome that you were able to maintain your relationship with your relative. I know they do it out of love rather than malice which is why I have hope for the relationship. I think like you and your relative, we just have to redefine our relationship. I think eventually they will come around. It’s just going to take a little time.

]]> By: ArwenTaylor http://www.arwentaylor.com/dealing-with-the-expectations-of-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3812 ArwenTaylor Tue, 16 Feb 2010 15:56:22 +0000 http://www.arwentaylor.com/?p=240#comment-3812 @Walter Thanks for the advice. Yes I'm working on becoming a more focused person. I picked up this bad habit of multitasking that I'm working to break. I find that I am able to get things done more quickly if I am able to focus solely on one thing at a time. It's a challenge but I'm making it through. :) @Walter

Thanks for the advice. Yes I’m working on becoming a more focused person. I picked up this bad habit of multitasking that I’m working to break. I find that I am able to get things done more quickly if I am able to focus solely on one thing at a time. It’s a challenge but I’m making it through. :)

]]> By: lazygirl http://www.arwentaylor.com/dealing-with-the-expectations-of-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3810 lazygirl Tue, 16 Feb 2010 05:23:55 +0000 http://www.arwentaylor.com/?p=240#comment-3810 I think there's a lot of truth to what you say. I'm not in the same exact situation as you're in, but I have felt that pressure of other people's expectations. And usually they want you to do the things that they do, and live the life that they have. Make the choices they did. But this is really bad advice because life isn't one size fits all. And our hearts, minds and souls are unique so why should the same things make us happy? I think it's really brave (and smart!) of you to want to travel on your path. One of my favorite inspirational quotes is "Only the heart sees rightly" from the Little Prince and I truly believe it. p.s: I love Abraham Hicks! I read the book last year and I just couldn't put it down. I think there’s a lot of truth to what you say. I’m not in the same exact situation as you’re in, but I have felt that pressure of other people’s expectations. And usually they want you to do the things that they do, and live the life that they have. Make the choices they did.

But this is really bad advice because life isn’t one size fits all. And our hearts, minds and souls are unique so why should the same things make us happy?

I think it’s really brave (and smart!) of you to want to travel on your path. One of my favorite inspirational quotes is “Only the heart sees rightly” from the Little Prince and I truly believe it.

p.s: I love Abraham Hicks! I read the book last year and I just couldn’t put it down.

]]> By: Christie http://www.arwentaylor.com/dealing-with-the-expectations-of-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3809 Christie Tue, 16 Feb 2010 03:34:58 +0000 http://www.arwentaylor.com/?p=240#comment-3809 I'm sorry things got that bad in that relationship. When we were both in our 20s, I used to worry about a young relative and tried to "take care of her" with boring advice, but she gently and FIRMLY told me that it was her life, her bills, etc., and hers alone to worry about. I was left with no doubt that she didn't want me worrying or meddling - but that I was welcome to have a friendly relationship of equals with her - sans advice or nagging. It hurt my feelings for a while, but I chose to save the relationship and keep my opinions to myself. I hope your relative will learn to do likewise - so she can have you in her life. I’m sorry things got that bad in that relationship. When we were both in our 20s, I used to worry about a young relative and tried to “take care of her” with boring advice, but she gently and FIRMLY told me that it was her life, her bills, etc., and hers alone to worry about. I was left with no doubt that she didn’t want me worrying or meddling – but that I was welcome to have a friendly relationship of equals with her – sans advice or nagging. It hurt my feelings for a while, but I chose to save the relationship and keep my opinions to myself. I hope your relative will learn to do likewise – so she can have you in her life.

]]> By: Walter http://www.arwentaylor.com/dealing-with-the-expectations-of-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3808 Walter Tue, 16 Feb 2010 02:23:34 +0000 http://www.arwentaylor.com/?p=240#comment-3808 Take it as part of the challenge. Always remember to learn and evolve for the better. Work on your goal everyday even if there are distractions, it may be hard at first but nothing will happen if you allow yourself to be distracted. Success is a thorny path to venture, but we are all given the capacity to pass over it. :-) Take it as part of the challenge. Always remember to learn and evolve for the better. Work on your goal everyday even if there are distractions, it may be hard at first but nothing will happen if you allow yourself to be distracted. Success is a thorny path to venture, but we are all given the capacity to pass over it. :-)

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